This is
“Wait, Is This A Date”
the podcast about queer relationship you won’t ever realized you always required, organized by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast came into this world out of Drew and that I’s mutual passion for vocals memos and strong talks about dating. We’ve been giving each other voice memos for just over annually today, going deep about circumstances received loves about dating (people! enjoyable! flirting!) additionally the things I detest about internet dating (folks! Fun! Flirting!). We were having a lot of enjoyment, careful, and insightful discussions and frankly, it seemed impolite to deny the greater public of these!

Think about us since your friendly area co-hosts, leading you through very particular queer matchmaking conundrums because frankly, right dating podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: how will you flirt via IG stories? How do you take very long, slow flirting one step further? What does it indicate to think folks are into you? We’re going to talk to a few of Autostraddle’s greatest authors, perform some extremely specific video games, report on the pop tradition crushes of-the-moment not to mention, you will need to respond to the endless question of our times:

Wait…is this a romantic date???

Listen to the intro below and whet urge for food, after which smash that “subscribe” option wherever great podcasts are distributed, hence ensuring you an enjoyable August 11th, if the first official episode falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I’m Drew.

Christina:

And I’m Christina. And this refers to

Wait, Is It a night out together?

An Autostraddle podcast this is certainly centered on the question, “hold off, so is this a date?”

Drew:

I’m very thrilled discover.

Theme tune plays

Christina:

Yeah. I believe we’ve been on a journey discover what exactly are times and just what are perhaps not dates, as friends, in addition to as a people, I do believe.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we tell those queers and lesbians what our whole indealment is actually, like everything we’re around contained in this second?

Drew:

Like which we have been?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I’m able to go very first. My name is Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, website. I really do plenty of film and television critique, and intercourse and matchmaking writing, and personal essays, and things that combine all those things. I’m trans I am also a lesbian, and I also feel like i ought to include a third thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what more? Just what else?

Christina:

Situations perform carry on threes. You’ve got great tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thanks.

Christina:

You have incredible locks, i believe which is vital.

Drew:

Those are my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic locks.

Christina:

Those are your identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I usually asserted that you’re a female of tresses experience. I have constantly asserted that in regards to you.

Drew:

Yeah. It’s really crucial.

Christina:

Yeah. I will be Christina Tucker. I will be also an author at Autostraddle, if you possibly could believe it, whom produces about… oh, let us just state whatever pops into the mind. That is truly the feeling. Additionally a lesbian. I Am Dark. I don’t know just who otherwise Im.

Drew:

You might also need fantastic tresses.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, What i’m saying is, i believe this is certainly perhaps a podcast of tresses experience. Perhaps which should be our very own tagline, “a podcast of locks knowledge.” I guess the individuals are most likely wanting to know exactly how we got to this podcast particularly.

Drew:

Yes. And like every great thing in life — and by that after all, really, very few — it started as a highdea, as something I delivered you in a voice memo, high. And going back beyond that, we began delivering sound memos to one another in the very beginning of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I’m simply attending inform you like emotions that We have, and after that you may go after that and answer me personally, not reply to me, whatever. I’m exactly like, this might be myself getting immediate and clear. Okay. I’m some body who… i enjoy discussing matchmaking. It’s certainly one of my primary subjects of dialogue. I’ve today mentioned my portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for saying your own portion. Additionally, six mins and 54 seconds. Truthfully, instead amazing for you to get that in that period of time. We not really think of internet dating. I think, maybe, an opposite sense of you and your want to remember dating and explore online dating and, like, be dating. I believe those tend to be my ideas. Really, i am giving a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I will deliver this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I am aware that you don’t contemplate dating, most certainly not everything me personally, possibly below anybody else I am aware?

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe about matchmaking significantly less than almost anyone In addition know. I am not sure. I honestly have no idea basically’ve fulfilled anyone whon’t consider dating as far as I perform or as much as I don’t, i suppose.

Drew:

We failed to truly know one another. We were colleagues at Autostraddle, but also for folks that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is an online office space. It really is more of a Slack circumstance than a, most of us arrive to like lesbian headquarters with briefcases. That’s not truly the feeling. We did not truly know both. Immediately after which, the start of pandemic, there clearly was some DM sliding and a few friendship building plus some vocals memoing. So we would always joke it absolutely was like we’d a podcast because we would deliver these very long sound memos. After which whenever I ended up being stoned, I found myself like, “We in fact should.” And right here we are.

Christina:

Yeah. I understand what you mean by large some ideas not necessarily becoming the most effective a few ideas, but i actually do have an extremely obvious remembrance of hearing you say that and being like, “Yeah, without a doubt we have to have a podcast. Our company is executing for each other. Then receive other folks into it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Normally my high some ideas tend to be such things as, “Oh my personal Jesus, there must be a TV tv series called

Get A Hold Of The Star Twin,

in which you just take a high profile following they satisfy someone who — like a random person who features their own exact same birth chart. Which also, is regarded as my personal large ideas that i believe was great. It Really Is like…

Christina:

Yeah, to start with, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew:

That’s a free of charge one. I really don’t proper care.

Christina:

No, it is not. Drew, i am obtaining you money, i will end up being your money manager for the. Definitely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see these things in this field. Fundamentally, this will be a dating podcast, a queer dating podcast. And one reason exactly why truly that topic, rather than any number of other stuff Christina and that I talk about, is mainly because I favor online dating and Christina will not love online dating which is an enjoyable little.

Christina:

A reduced amount of a fan.

Drew:

And conflict is truly… That’s where drama occurs. In my opinion Socrates mentioned that.

Christina:

Absolutely.

Drew:

And that’s why which is the topic. We will include all sorts of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We are going to speak about every one of the most useful queer dating conundrums, dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Correct me easily’m incorrect, but i believe Instagram is best queer internet dating application.

Shelli, in sound video from potential episode:

A lot of per cent. It’s the greatest.

Christina, in sound clip from potential episode:

I have heard this from other queers.

Shelli, in audio video from future occurrence:

Completely. It gives you literally everything required, unless a person’s exclusive. But even though you’re private, baby, we’ll figure out about you, a method.

Drew, in sound video from potential occurrence:

We’re going to explore ideal intercourse we have now had.

Dani, in audio video from potential occurrence:

Right after which I finally requested like, “No, did you stepped on here for sex? Tend to be we browsing have intercourse?” Plus they happened to be like, “Yeah, that’s what i desired.” And it was like, the pet and also the puppy had been in space and there ended up being cat and dog locks everywhere. And that I had been like, seriously having an allergic reaction although we happened to be sex. The orgasm was actually, like, chef’s kiss. It absolutely was an ideal knowledge.

Drew, in audio clip from future episode:

Wow.

Christina, in audio clip from future occurrence:

We wonder whether it’s some thing in regards to the hives that actually added. Like a tiny bit ‘jenesequa’ to that particular climax feel. It had been like, “Ooh, I’m a little itchy additionally.” I ponder exactly how much that elements. We’re making reference to how to break-up with people.

Ro, in sound video from potential episode:

It is like a rather straight lifestyle thing, as well.

Christina, in sound video from future occurrence:

Yeah.

Ro, in audio video from future occurrence:

No less than if you ask me, i’m like… My directly pals are those that almost certainly going to state, “Well, bang see your face. See your face sucks,” basically end a relationship with someone. Whereas, queer folks in living are those who happen to be almost certainly going to preserve friendships with exes or perhaps see our very own exes in a holistic method.

Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Anything you could think about in a matchmaking podcast, and I’m not likely to rest to you people, also a lot more. Significantly more than you could potentially actually consider.

Drew, in sound clip from potential episode:

If you are sexting via text, could it be like what you want all of them… Are you doing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with me personally now” or “If only you were pressing,” what tense are we in?

Kayla, in audio clip from future occurrence:

Yeah, I happened to be planning ask the same question, actually, because that’s a thing that’s usually fascinating for me, particularly just because many of us are experts, additionally.

Christina, in sound video from future episode:

I happened to be planning state, a team of writers fancy, “What tense are we working?”

Kayla, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Point of view.

Christina, in audio clip from future episode:

It is a close third, what is happening here?

Kayla, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Like, purely second?

Drew:

Listed here is the fact about queer men and women. Let me tell you.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. This is your own TED Chat. Let us go-off.

Drew:

There is plenty experiences consequently they are a lot more interesting. Simply while I look at the method in which direct folks speak about dating, it’s thus monotonous. And I think-so often, queer matchmaking talks are extensions for the mainstream online dating discussion, but adding things such as “developing” and “very first time you’re with a blah, blah, blah.” It’s like — there’s a lot more nuance in books… Its thus exciting. Exactly what a world that it is, queer intercourse and queer matchmaking.

Christina:

We’ve used like the really classic sort of dull construction of heterosexual matchmaking and really introduced it into a globe, filled up with extended discussions and running our feelings. Its wonderful work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am really thrilled and I hope you-all tend to be excited, because all of our basic event happens weekly from now and, there’ll be brand-new periods every Wednesday.

Christina:

It’s been 1 week until you’ll notice all of our podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you’ll not just get

To L and Right Back

on Mondays, you will get

Wait, Is It A Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I also co-host both, if you don’t like me, I guess you are not playing Autostraddle podcasts. And in case you do at all like me, you are pleasant.

Christina:

Additionally, if you don’t like Drew, develop, is exactly what i must say.

Drew:

I’m not for everyone, I’m ok with this. I believe it’s probably best that you not for everybody.

Christina:

Positive. I think that is entirely reasonable. And possibly a subject we can easily discuss on one in our potential episodes. What are the results when you are not for everybody? We enjoyed that I moved like, “Ooh, let us get this to all-inclusive.” What goes on as soon as you, we, as individuals. You stated, why don’t we perform a complete event pertaining to, “let’s say I am not for everyone?”

Drew:

Really, it is Leo period and I also’m a Leo increasing and I felt like that makes it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. many thanks truly.

Drew:

The audience is twin Leo risings with this podcast, that is certainly element of the reason why it will likely be so good. You can pay attention to united states anywhere you tune in to your own podcast. It will be a pretty standard podcast circumstance. Nothing elegant, no riddles would have to be resolved to discover the event, it’s going to be immediately individually.

Christina:

Simply not the supervisor people. There are many possibilities, would what you will.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you might get us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you can email us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you can find myself on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my personal name in today’s tight.

Christina:

We have looked over your own social media marketing addresses several times and that I haven’t, until this minute, noticed that it’s “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that’s the thing, Drew ended up being used and I also do not know how… Oh, I found myself dating somebody that really… Actually this individual just who I dated, I didn’t get much of that relationship, except we said this notion and she thought it had been therefore amusing, like also amusing, frankly, like area of the problem, i believe possibly. And I also was encouraged to get it done, and it’s just caught.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Sometimes folks think i am a visual singer while know very well what, i enjoy be thought of in that way, but i can not, I do not genuinely have drawing abilities.

Christina:

I will state there is nothing on brand for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, that’s your Twitter handle.” And you getting want, “really, it really is a funny story about dating.”

Drew:

Yes, precisely.

Christina:

Best.

Drew:

What are your personal handles, and so are they linked to your intimate existence?

Christina:

Just, no. You will find me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, website. Whenever you intend to discover me on Instagram, you are able to do very, at @christina_gracet. And it is really daring of us to know personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Wonderful work.

Christina:

Thanks such.

Drew:

It certainly is a delight to talk to both you and i am thus thrilled to plunge into all these exciting subjects. And also for our very own listeners to access understand all of us a little bit better to get to… In my opinion we can all, i believe we’re all browsing learn on this journey.

Christina:

I hope so. I enrolled in learning.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like an university course of podcasts. That managed to get sound like a total bummer. So sorry.

Drew:

I’m not sure. I experienced some fantastic university classes.

Christina:

Certainly, Used To Do as well, but I Really Don’t need to make anyone—

Drew:

Can you envisage how remarkable it would be should you decide showed up towards college class and either folks had been the professor, or we instructed a class collectively, that’d function as the hottest thing actually ever. People might possibly be like…

Christina:

Finest citation around. Enrollment is off of the chart.

Drew:

Oh, we ought to have an episode that’s focused on hot professors. That is not pertinent.

Christina:

That’s not maybe not pertinent. We’ll say that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I believe like there may be — you must make it only a little wider, but who knows? That knows exactly what will take the long run, that is certainly truly interesting. Therefore understand who can know? You, listener, as soon as you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in therefore crucially struck that old subscribe switch and you can hang out with our team every Wednesday and ask your self, “Understanding a romantic date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That gives me personally to… I don’t know. I became only wondering… was this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. It is a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool. Okay. Great. Okay. I believe i am obtaining the hang from it and you also know what’s fantastic, is the fact that because I inquired, now I’m sure, and today in direct interaction is actually what it’s all about.

Christina:

Expected and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

And something that many folks in the society could learn. Therefore’re going to, ideally, this is really a site. This is exactly a reduced amount of a podcast plus of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I happened to ben’t conscious of that, but I’m delighted to find out that we are having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my favorite situations. A couple of my personal favorite things to focus on P, podcasts and political acts.

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Christina, in a voice memo:

I think my personal instinct is when i love a person and I would like them inside my life, I know the most effective way for my situation to keep them in my own every day life is to ensure they are a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I am merely thus happy that people’ve come to be this type of close friends. If in case out-of quarantine, that’s what took place, we made this amazing brand-new pal, whom i enjoy dearly and I’m simply thrilled to speak with you usually, like just what a present.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Dammit. I’d a thought therefore went out. It was honestly most likely truly brilliant.